The Bread Crumb Trail

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The Bread Crumb Trail


Most of my counselling is concerned with finding the relationship between what is happening outside a client’s life and what is happening within the client's core values, beliefs and thoughts. Being aware of this relationship is one of the most long lasting ways to effect change . Once this relationship is recognized and changed, then anxiety, fear and confusion can be released and peace can come to come into our hearts.

Part of this inner and outer transformtaion is a personal understanding of our own inter-connectiveness with life. This is the foundation for all my counselling, However, I also believe that insight must be paired with action.

One effective way to bring satisfaction into your life is to note each conflict and each success and wonder about how it reflects your  inner being. I have written before about how questions can begin a journey, and how questions always have the answer implied within them. I call this process of following  back to the source of conflict, the bread crumb trail. Try This!

1.      Bring to mind an event that is troubling you at present. Most probably it is about something outside of yourself, a relationship, an event, a difficulty.

2.      Summarize the difficulty in a simple sentence. Simplicity will help you trace this problem back to its source, like a bread crumb trail left by a wandering child along a dark path. For example, “Right now I am struggling with ______”.

3.      Sit with this statement. Be sure that is it simple and written in personal terms, not is terms of other people or other influences. For example, “Right now I’m really angry at X because he did _______” is not yet at the home place of the difficulty. The statement, “I’m feeling really betrayed.” is a better tool for liberation.

4.      Now for the courageous part! Only you can answer the next part, honestly and with complete confidence in your own abilities to transform your life. Now you ask, “Where else in my life am I feeling ________?” And then keep going to wherever that question takes you. What ever images, memories or words that first come to you. Pay attention! This question will begin the bread crumb trail back to the essential you.

Remember, the story is never about the story and the story is always about you!

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