Three Secrets to Communication

Three Secrets to Communication

           

             

           

            An essential part of the human experience is learning how to form relationships by communicating effectively, passionately and with the satisfaction of being heard. Here are three secrets when communicating with another-whether as speaker or listener.

(1) When two beings communicate, it is always a two way reflection. You are both mirrors of each other, and in this way you influence not only each other, but all other beings and the environment also in that moment. When I kneel down to stroke a cat who is enjoying the sunshine, I am adding to her enjoyment and she to mine. But we are also, in that place of simple delight-influencing the robin who sings above us, the west wind which blows through our hair and the trees under which we pause. If you see with the eyes of a psychic as I do, you could see that the cat and I are also creating the possibility that we will have more of these good things in the future.

            (2) The story is never about the story. When you are in conflict with someone and they are trying to communicate with you-remember this little piece of advice-the story they are telling you is not really the true story. By this I mean that few people are aware enough to truly know what their true intentions are as they live every day. Most likely they are pushed and pulled by unconscious forces which they can not comprehend. Listen to what is really being said by paying attention to other clues in the communication-the environment, their body language and the physical sensations you are having as you mirror them.

           

(3) Finally, the story is always about you! With great courage as a spiritual warrior, take up the communication as the relationship between you and the All-a mirror of something that calls out for attention. Give it your best by learning all that you need from the conflict or joy. Both lead to greater awareness, peace and happiness depending on how you integrate it. Often this is where we need help from a counsellor who has a spiritual view of the situation.

Try This!

Next time you are communicating with another being, pause and reflect on the three aspects of being.

1                    First, the earthy aspects of the burdens and gifts of being an individual in the world.

2                    Secondly, the compassionate aspects of love, caring, communication and acceptance

3                    Thirdly the wisdom aspects of the unfolding mystery which brings more joy as you understand more.