Chapter 23 Recovery from the suicide of a loved one

 

This is an except from a longer session from the channelled fellowship of the River. This fellowship channelled through a medium for about thirty years. They are still present to those who wish to contact them. The whole of this session will appear in the River Books: Book Two- All knowledge is within, All knowledge is Without (due to be published in September 2026).

A more extensive exploration of their sessions can be found in the first River book-The River Books: Book One-Three Soul Paths

https://www.amazon.ca/River-Books-Three-Soul-Paths/dp/B0GCDMWVV7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0

 

I include this excerpt because so many people in these difficult times are choosing suicide, either overtly or in ways that appear to be unintentional.  his act leaves ripples of intense grief, loss and confusion, especially around questions of ‘why?’.

This session was particularly significant to me because for many years following the death of my first husband, I believed that he had taken his own life. I lived with a roller coaster of emotions raging through all the five stages of grief-shock, anger, bargaining, grief and sometimes briefly acceptance. Then during a plant medicine session, I was shown how he had died. I saw that he was murdered, not suicided. This made so much sense to me since he had never contemplated suicide before and although a dour man, had many moments of joy and hope for the future.

I have since done my own investigation into his death and discovered that the information given to me during my plant medicine session was correct. Initially his death was deemed a suicide by the local RCMP but there were questions about the validity of that conclusion at the first inquest. There was another inquiry and the inquest determined that he had died by a gun shot wound ‘by person or persons unknow’. Those people were never identified.

I don’t want to cogitate any longer on my first beloved’s death. I know enough to confirm that it was a murder and the RCMP tried to cover it up as a suicide to escape a lengthy and expense inquiry. The Staff Sargent, who passed on in 2023 believed that my beloved wasn’t worth a respectful inquiry and inquest because he thought it was just another drug gang related crime.   I discovered through my research that this Staff Sargent was reprimanded for the cover up of my husband’s murder and was moved to another assignment.  This wasn’t the first charge of misconduct against this man, so my husband’s murder cover up was just one in a long list of corruption.

Those lies traumatized me, our son, his parents and our larger community in ways that were unimaginably harmful. There is a part of me that wants revenge, but as I often tell myself, I’m not in charge of Karma. From my research, the Staff Sargent died a horrible and painful death. I’m sorry about that, but I hope his soul will now rest in peace.

 

This session followed the news that a friend of ours had recently committed suicide. Her husband found her body and was naturally very upset. This suicide was unexpected. Her husband stated that she seemed to be happy, they were building their dream home. However, but she had received news that their dream home had gone over cost and it was uncertain if they could afford to finish it. She would have to work for several more years before she could enjoy retirement. I wasn’t close to this woman, so these are details that were told to me by others. Her husband asked for advice and information about her death.

This session can not answer everyone’s questions about losing a loved one by suicide, but it might give some insight to what can happen after self determined death and may give some solace to those who are left behind.

From previous questions from other in our circle, suicided souls usually incarnate quickly and find circumstances similar to the ones they left because their learning was interrupted. This is not always the case, but often, especially if the self determined death is for emotional reasons, they will yearn to return quickly to finish their soul tasks.

I hasten to add that if you are contemplating suicide, please contact emergency services in your area and get some help. Suicide always leaves widening circles of sorrow and should not be contemplated unless there is long consideration with a professional and circumstances that fulfill the requirements of Medically Assistance in Death (M.A.I.D.).

 

 

 

Julia: I wonder if you can send some healing to an L? [The woman who recently committed suicide.]

River: This woman of whom you speak up has already been reborn. This lifetime has much more potential for growth. This new incarnation will create blessings, and great harmony. She has learned and loved much in this lifetime. She is already incarnated again.

Julia: That was fast!

River: Sometimes agreements happen fast. You may tell her husband this. He may not understand, but he will understand in some way that his former partner has already begun again with a family who is more conducive to her wholeness. She is a wanted baby, there is much joy in her new family.

 

I relayed this information to her husband and, as the River stated, he wasn’t sure be believed in multi dimensional lives, but he was comforted by the thought that wherever she was, that she was alright and taken care of. I lost touch with her husband after this session, but I heard from mutual friends that he did mange to finish the house, retire and move into it.

I am not a trained medium, however, I have had reliable mediums give me readings from those who have passed on. A good, authentic medium will give evidence that could only come from the person who has passed on. I’ve had this experience, the medium was able to tell me details about the person they were contacting which they could not have possibility known. I realise that its popular in dominate culture to denigrate the idea of multi-dimensional lives, however many people have memories from other times when they were living other incarnations. There are many reliable examples of hypnosis patients giving verifiable details from other lives.

In my practice if a client is suffering from the sudden loss of a loved one that is completely unexpected or incomprehensible, I ask what their beliefs are about life after death. If they believe that consciousness is eternal and can not be destroyed, only transformed, then I suggest they find an authentic medium and see if they can contact the being. I don’t pretend to fully understand how this can be done, but I have seen this kind of mediumship bring lasting relief to grieving mothers, fathers, sisters, brother, close friends and other loved ones.

And for me-that enough.

Be well. Be happy. Be healthy. Be free.