Let’s face the truth here.
Our children are broken.
Our children are dying young, by suicide or violence, living
on the streets, becoming depressed and anxious, not fitting in, not coping, not
having kids, not working, not creating any kind of life they want for
themselves. By recognizing what the Dark
Machine is doing to our children, we can stop supporting it and maybe,
maybe, slow down the environmental and social destructive forces that it
creates.
First, let’s stop assuming that the problems with our young
are their own fault. We can see that despite therapy, billions of dollars of
mind numbing medications, millions of dollars of social programs and education
initiatives, life coaches, inspirational speakers-they are still slipping, and
slipping fast into illness, anhedonia, disconnection, and general despair. As a
counsellor I see it all the time, either the young people themselves, or their
parents and grandparents talking to me.
They sit across from me full of helplessness. They tell me how despite
everything they do for themselves or their children and grandchildren, these
young people, are still failing.
As Leonard Cohen wrote in his song “Everybody knows”:
Everybody knows the war is over
Everybody knows the good guys lost
Everybody knows the fight was fixed
The poor stay poor, the rich get rich
That's how it goes
Everybody knows
There is a general sense of foreboding with most sensitive
people I know. They recognize at some level that we are on a precipice of
disaster, and no one seems to be able to stop it. There is no honourable war to
fight now; the wars for goodness and justice are over because we all lost. You only fight if you know who
to hold accountable. In the past, sociopathic leaders and socio political
groups with ill intent towards humanity and Gaia were visible. They dressed up
so we could see them, proclaimed themselves openly as leaders. Now the true
leaders of the Dark Machine hide. We
know they are the top 1-10% of income earners, sometimes we can find their
faces on the internet, but we can’t meet with them, vote for them or have any influence
on their policies. Through their manipulations using technology, political
structures and cultural control, we are forced to be obedient to their hungry
ghosts of power and control. Or, if we willing to make the sacrifices, we can
be quietly or openly defiant. Or, we can choose to try to ignore the crisis and
hide in triviality and homocentric activities and world spaces. Which one do
you choose?
Usually we start by blaming the victims. We ask them to
change themselves as individuals-change their brain chemistry, or their beliefs
and cognitive errors, or their goals or work habits. Usually we start with the
individual and work out to bigger circles of influence-individual, family,
social, community and then global. But I propose a different approach. Let’s
start with the big picture first, with the global perspective-with Gaia Grief.
Expecting young people to make all the changes doesn’t work.
I know many who although are good people with earth honouring values, are
completely spent with surviving. With the erosion of labour laws, worker
collective rights and protection from political corruption, they struggle with
long hours of low paid work and relatively high cost of living. Our economic inequalities are returning to pre
WWI standards. The typical young person, especially if they have a family, haven’t
the energy or time left over for self-reflection, or motivation to change. They
are immobilized by the enormity of the situation, overcome by their own
emotional responses of anxiety, depression and disconnection. Often their
despair makes them unable to think clearly, act or change. Some young people I
counsel, cannot rise out their beds in the morning, especially on the week end
when they don’t have to go to work. They slide into hopelessness, dark and
despairing thoughts. They hope only to survive another day, that day, if they
can get by without killing themselves. And many do suicide, every single day.
Let’s take the simplest, most elegant analysis here. If our
young people appear to be broken, then they are and they probably have good
reason to be. We have handed over a broken world to them, and at some level
they know there is no going back with the environmental destruction we have
wrought upon Gaia.
There is much to be depressed about, as the media is
constantly reminding us. The National Geographic estimates that one in four mammals
is at risk for extension in the next few decades.
Mass die-offs are individual events that kill at least a billion
animals, wipe out over 90 percent of a population, or destroy 700 million
tons—the equivalent weight of roughly 1,900 Empire State Buildings—worth of
animals.
And according to new research, such die-offs are on the rise.
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Just as an example of our studied ignorance- when I was
researching the rate of die off and extinction rates, I noticed that the direr
of predictions had been expunged from the National Geographic website.
I remember as a young woman in my twenties and thirties
watching clouds of shore birds rise up from the Gulf Island waters, huge flocks
of swallows returning from their southern retreats, butterflies and moths so
abundant that as I walked through my grandparents fields that I could catch
them with my hands if I wanted to. Those large collections of animals are all
gone now. If I see 2-3 shore birds along the beach, I think that’s a good
sighting. If I see two butterflies in my garden I stand transfixed by their
presence. I never see swallows any more where I live, the owls have gone, so
have the bats and night hawks and the gorgeous lute like call of the Swainson’s
thrust. Is no one noticing this tragic and brutal die off? Am I the only one
with memory cells left? I met dog walkers along the river where I hike and they
comment on several birds they have seen. I look at them sadly and tell them, there was a time this delta had huge flocks of
birds, they gathered and flew around in huge cloud like formations which darken
the sky.
As Terrance McKenna once said Western civilization is a loaded gun pointed at the head of this planet.
Is that what is happening? Are we all just so deep in denial
that we have forgotten to look at the truth?
Let’s be frank here, the problem of our broken children
isn’t only a problem of brain chemistry, early childhood trauma or ancestral
trauma, wrong thinking, poor parenting or lack of discipline. This is much
deeper and more profound than these simplistic answers. The proof of my theory
is this-just ask any young depressed, anxious or addicted young person how they
feel, really feel deep down. Then ask if they have any good reason for these
negative feelings- and often they will tell you they had good childhoods, happy
family and parents, their basic needs were taken care of, but somehow they are
uneasy in a way that we as humans have not seen before in our young.
Do we have collective amnesia about the mental health of
past generations? Here is what I remember, only fifty years ago. As a child and
teen, I didn’t know anyone with (the list): anxiety, depression, allergies,
autism, addictions or anyone who was on any kind of psychotropic medications.
NO ONE! My grandmother in her 80’s took an aspirin every day for her arthritis,
that was the only person I knew who was taking meds or who had any kind of
chronic illness. We assumed in those days that most people were healthy and
they were. Now it is assumed that most people have something wrong with them,
some illness either mental or physical. We assume they should be taking
expensive meds for these disorders. Does this not seem strange to you?
I believe that those who support the Dark Machine, those with outdated beliefs, are afraid to face the
reality of how they are destroying families, children, teens and young people
all over the globe. Their propaganda is built around ‘family values’, by which
they usually mean patriarchy, Gaia dishonouring life style and uncontrolled
consumerism. So it’s in their own best interests to keep this inconsistency a
secret and they do this by turning on their own victims. They accuse the 99% of
being lazy, overly worried and negative, misinformed and lacking resiliency.
Their solutions are more hard work, medications, and expensive therapies. Their
solutions are that young people continue to keep them in their glass palaces of
privilege, concern themselves with non-issues and project their anger onto the ‘evil’ Others- Arabs, Muslims, Blacks, Right
Wing, Left wing, the Russians…your choice. They seek to keep us distracted with
superficial homocentric entertainments such as social media, fashion and
comparative self-worth images which show the 99% what they are missing. It
would be funny if it weren’t so tragic.
I honestly think that
if all anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications were banned tomorrow and
everyone stopped taking them, climate change would stop. Right then, right
there. There would massive revolutions, demonstrations in the street; those who
are orchestrating environmental destruction would be forcibly taken from their
positions of power. I’m not advocating violence; I’m just predicting that
within the next couple of decades, if we have that long, we will see
revolutions such have not been witnessed before in human history. Because we
are a species of slow learners, it seems we have to really feel the pain deeply
before we decide we must change. We have chosen frivolity over survival.
I had the good fortune of feeling what those with severe
depression and anxiety must feel a few days ago. I woke up black as soot in my
Soul. I hated myself, others, the world. I couldn’t hug my husband nor be
courteous to the other people I met. I felt like I weighted a ton of massive,
immobile black substance that couldn’t be transformed or lightened in any way.
When I tried to say some positive things to myself, I didn’t believe it, even
for a second.
I’m going to be OK.
Ha! How do you know?
Don’t feel OK right now and we’re supposed to live in the moment-right?
So what if I feel
better for a while-soon this darkness will return, because it’s real and that
other positive thinking is just horse manure.
Even the thought of taking some plant medicines to lift me
up a little from this funk, seemed superficial and pointless. By chance or
karma, I didn’t stay in this place for long. Somehow something healthier and
more enlightened in me took over and by noon I was my usually positive self.
But I felt gratitude for the experience because now I know how my son who has
severe depression feels every single day. Non-stop, no let-up except with
alcohol and other numbing drugs.
So what can each one of us do with simple everyday actions
that can at least slow these coming end times? Something simple and plain?
I think each person who is concerned about their children
and coming generations, must develop their own plan and actions to address the
global crises we see coming towards us. For me, its commitments to my
counselling, my writing, my giving of time and experience to disadvantaged
individuals and community groups, to my own personal and spiritual growth. I purposely
look for joy and appreciation every day, especially towards the non-human
worlds of Gaia-the mineral, plant and non-human animal worlds. Creating and doing
ritual with metaphors of interconnection, growing my own organic garden where I
can appreciate Gia’s beauty, growing my own personal mycelium of like-minded
people, supporting each other, discussing our thoughts and observations, being
kind, practicing compassion. But always, with a view of the global picture-all
life, all beings, all perspectives. And always with the intent not to be
overwhelmed by Gia Grief.
I create in my imagination a future for humanity which will
be unbelievably free, beyond anything we can picture right now. As soon as we
can learn the simple but profound lessons of interconnectiveness, then wars,
hunger, social manipulation and Gaia plundering will collapse. Because everyone
will understand-that is done to the Other, is done to oneself first.
Realistically I don’t want to ignore the signs of disaster,
the five horsemen of the apocalypse. But I won’t be overcome by them either. I
somehow still have the ability to arise every day with some light and radiance
in my heart, and go forward with some hope of the future. Right action, with
compassion and a view of the whole. (Star, 2007)
Now for the practical part. Here are some suggestions to put
theory into practice.
Try This!
·
When a young person, or not so young person
expresses a mental state of anxiety, depression or substance dependence, try
starting the conversation with the global perspective first.
Are you worried about the state of
the world? Do you think you have a good future ahead of you? What do you see in
the next fifty years in terms of environmental inter dependence? Do you
seriously consider that humanity has a future?
·
If they have any amount of self-reflection they
will probably answer that they have grave concerns about their future and the
future of their children and grandchildren. Recognize those concerns, don’t
minimize them. Their emotional states are probably based on real influences, in
the real world. Acknowledge their pain. Acknowledge their struggles and predicament.
Witness the truth of their experiences.
·
Then, when and only if they are ready to move
through the despair, talk to them what could possibility be positive in the
present state of the world. I see massive personal growth, and recognition of
inter connectedness and inter dependence. This will be the basis of the next
leap up of growth and consciousness. We will recognize our Good Mother and stop
abusing Her. We will see the Other is actually just a reflection of ourselves.
We will understand the environment is a mirror of our Soul.
·
Plan out a few things they can do today, this
week, this month, this year to help this great leap up in consciousness be less
brutal and destructive. Simple everyday solutions. I want to dance more. I want to develop a daily ritual that reminds me
of interconnection. I want to create art that reflects the goodness of the
earth.
·
Let it be simple, doable and something they can
start today.
Turn up with your intentions.
Start today.
Work with what you have in front of you.
Resources:
Star, J. (2007) The three great ways-balancing work, love and spirituality.
Cowichan Bay: Long Boat Press.
Star,J. (2018) Soul Catching: Finding sacred connections in our environments.
Cowichan Bay: Long Boat Press.